Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Chapter 1-1: True love's truths

Since Valentine's day is coming up (as the stores have been diligently reminding us since the day after Christmas), I thought I'd do a series on love.  The first thing is, of course, to define what I mean by love.  It is unfortunate that the English language only has one word for love, which can mean so many different things.  "I love you, mom", "I love cheesecake", "I love playing BANG! with you", "I love winning", etc.  But the kind of love I'm going to focus on is what some think of as "true love", that thing people seek to have with a partner that they care for, want to protect, and hope to spend the rest of their life with.

I do believe in that kind of love.  And as a logical result, I do not believe in jealousy.  I believe that if you truly love someone, you want him/her to be as happy as he/she can be, even if you can't be the one to provide that.  So if another person attempts to court your partner, then you accept that there are two possible results to the process:  1)  Your partner is happier with the other person, in which case you should let them be together, or 2)  Your partner is happier with you, in which case, he/she will eventually come to realize it and will stay with you.

I also believe somewhat in the theory that "opposites attract".  I believe that partners should have similar interests but opposite/complementary personalities.  If both partners are aggressive on a subject, then they will clash and fight (and even though I hear that make-up sex is good, it's probably detrimental to the longevity of the relationship in the long run), and if both are too demure on a subject, they won't be able to come to a decision and will end up frustrated with themselves and each other.  If both are too emotional, there will be a lot of pain and unnecessary drama in the relationship.  If both are too stoic, then the relationship will become cold.  Personalities that complement each other, bring out the best in each other, and make up for each other's weaknesses are the best matches.

No comments:

Post a Comment